Chapter 1: part 2

Let's look at what it means for sex to be a gift of God:

James 1:17: Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.

Genesis 1

26Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth,^b and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”

27So God created man in his own image,

in the image of God he created him;

male and female he created them.

28God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”

29Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food. 30And to all the beasts of the earth and all the birds of the air and all the creatures that move on the ground—everything that has the breath of life in it—I give every green plant for food.” And it was so.

31God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. And there was evening, and there was morning—the sixth day.

God ex-calmed that everything he made on the 6th day was Very Good. He made both male and female and ex-calmed that his creation was very Good. He tells them to be fruitful and multiply, aka have sex. Sex is very good and it was created by God.

Now lets look how man/woman got it all wrong.

Romans 1:18-32:

18The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness, 19since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. 20For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse.

21For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools 23and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.

24Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.

26Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. 27In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.

28Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. 29They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 32Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.

So God created sex as good but it was perverted by man.

Some other types of God's Gifts are:

1. Salvaton: Eph 2:8
2. To be married or remain single: 1 corth 7:7
3. Eternal life: Rom 6:23
4. To find satisfaction in work: Ecc 3:13
5. enjoyment of wealth and possessions: Ecc 5:19
6. Children: Gen 30:20

There are many others gifts listed but each on of the gifts can be perverted, just as the gift of sex.

Other ways that sex can be perverted is by the lies we believe. Three lies are mentioned in "No more Headaches".

1. God created sex primarily for a man’s pleasure.

2. Eroticism = sexual immorality

3. The greatest pleasures of Sex are Immediate

Right now at this time which ones do you believe?

I can honestly say I believed all 3.

So what’s it going to be.? Do we hunker down and get to work learning about our new gift which we thought was a curse or do we just keep doing our duty?

Are you ready for some teaching from God on this gift of sex?

Home work:

You know he wrote a whole book of the bible on love and sex in a marriage? Read Song of Solomon.

Memory verse:

James 1:17

Going further: Read song of Solomon with your husband. Begin talking about things that "get you going". Start thinking about your barriers to sex?

Don't forget read chapter 2: My Bedroom Ceiling Hasn't Changed in the Past Five Years