What the bible says about “Look but don't touch” Jealousy, Pornography and LUST

Let me start by saying this is a button pusher subject for me. Why you may ask? This has been the biggest lie ever told to me. It's also the one I really fell for. So lets first look at the Bible concerning this and then we will move on to the consequences of this action.

Matthew 5:27-28 You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Exodus 34:14 Do not worship any other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God.

1 Corinthians 7:4: The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

There you have it, it's wrong to look at someone besides your husband or your wife. The SIN is called LUST. It's also good to be jealous over something you have. When that jealousy breaks other rules (say murder, not cherishing your wife) it becomes evil. You do not have to share your husband or wifes heart with someone, something else.   

Consequences:

1. Your children may believe their value is in only how they look, because you look past your husband or your wife to someone who is physically attractive.
2. You will not be content with what you have (husband or wife). You will long for more.
3. What's in the heart leads often to action
4. You children may believe that you are a lair that you do not love your wife/husband, but still continue to act as you do. So they will not trust that you love them.

James 1:15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.

Pornography and Role play are also wrong for those same reasons but let me give you a few more consequences.

1. Your wife/husband will not believe they are enough. They will try to live up the the expectations of the videos and will find out that they can not compete. Especially as they age or have children. They will wonder why you can't love just them, what's wrong with them.
2. Depression and a seed of bitterness will take root. The wife or the husband without the addiction will began to resent you.
3. Porn is often a trigger for other sexual sin. Pedophilia is one of them. Most women on porn tapes are in their teen years. Some on the internet are much younger.
   Also every woman/man/child/ on those is someone else's daughter, sometimes wife, fiance, husband, son. That means you are committing adultery also.

The opposite of all of this is Self-control one of the fruits of the Spirit mentioned in Gal. 5:22-23

WOMEN: You may say I don't have a problem with Pornography, but trashy novels and fantasy romance will do the same thing as pornography to your heart.

1. You wish your husband was more like the guy in the book
2. You long for someone else more like the guy in the book.

Emotional adultery runs rampant among women. Who you share your heart to will become the one you share your bed with. Doesn't always mean physically. Who will you picture while you are intimate with your husband? Sharing your heart with someone besides your husband means you are not fully your husbands.

You too have committed the sin of LUST

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If you are having a problem with this sin of adultery, Lust and pornography there is help available:

“The love Dare” Chapter 24 deals with this issue.

http://xxxchurch.com/ has a programs, porn accountability software.

A bible search on “LUST” will give you a lot of help.

What the Bible says about......Homosexuality

To start let me give you a story.  There was a man who got very angry and beat his wife to death. His feelings of anger were not wrong but acting on the anger was wrong. We all get angry but we have to have the self-control not to allow ourselves to act on our anger. 


Homosexuality is in a way like anger or any other sexual sin.   The Bible is very clear on how God see's it.   He see's it as a sin. 

Lev. 18:22...You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination

Romans 1:26-28 For this reason God gave them up to degrading passions. Their women exchanged natural intercourse for unnatural, and in the same way also the men, giving up natural intercourse with women, were consumed with passion for one another. Men committed shameless acts with men and received in tehr own person the due penalty for their error.

1 Corth. 6:9-10. Do you not know that wrongdoesrs will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived! Fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, male prostitutes, sodomites, thieves the greedy, drunkards, revilers, robbers,---None of these will inherit the kingdom of God.

Temptation is not wrong, but acting on it is. 

I've had sins of sexual nature also. I had lots of sex before marriage, which was wrong. Unfortually I didnt' understand that the consequences that don't come always right away. In my marriage is where a lot of the sins from my past really made me realize that God's laws are for my protection. Even though God has forgiven me for those actions Satan uses those images from my past to make my life and enjoyment in sex much more difficult. I don't stuggle as much now when things are good in my marriage, but when things get difficult satan knows just how to remind me of things from my past and mess with my contentment with my life. 

Heb. 4:15, For we do not have a high priest (Jesus) who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who in EVERY respect has been tested as we are yet without sin. 

So saying that that people cannot understand unless they are homosexual is not right. Sin is sin. 

1 Corth. 10:13, No testing has overtaking you that is not COMMON TO EVERYONE. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tested beyond your strength, but with the testing he will provide the way out so that you many be able to endure it.

So people who struggle with homosexuality are not different, they are the same as everyone else who struggles with sin. God doesn't excuse it, he provides a way out. He doesn't say it's easy, he says we have to try not to do it. Because we are not perfect and do mess up He had to die. 

You just can't give up fighting sin. 

Romans 6:1-6 What then are we to say? Should we continue in sin in order that grace my abound? By no means! How can we who died to sin go on living in it? Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? Therefore we have been buried with him by baptism into death, so that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, so we too might walk in the newness of life. For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we will certainly be untied with him in a resurrection like his. We know that our OLD self was crucified with him so that the body of sin might be destroyed, and we might no longer be enslaved to sin. 

Romans 6: 12 Therefore do not let sin exercise dominion in your mortal bodies to make you obey their passions.

Finally, 

Luke 9:23 Then he said to them all, "If any want to become my followers, let them DENY themselves and take up there cross daily and follow me."

If you struggle with this sin please dont' give up the fight against satan. You can't follow God and satan at the same time. God said sin is wrong. 

What the Bible says about..... Baptism.

Instead of offering my opinion on the subject I want to offer you some scriptures to consider. Please don't take this lightly.

1. Lets start with her being baptized as a baby and what the Bible says about that.

Catholicism and Lutheranism teaches the concept of original sin. That babies are not innocent and if died would go to hell if they were not sprinkled or given last rights because they share the guilt of the father and mother from birth.

Ezekiel 18:20: The soul who sins is the one who will die. The son will not share the guilt of the father, nor will the father share the guilt of the son. The righteousness of the righteous man will be credited to him, and the wickedness of the wicked will be charged against him.

Also the Bible goes even further to say children are innocent.

Romans 7: 7-13 What shall we say, then? Is the law sin? Certainly not! Indeed I would not have known what sin was except through the law. For I would not have known what coveting really was if the law had not said, “Do not covet.”But sin, seizing the opportunity afforded by the commandment, produced in me every kind of covetous desire. For apart from law, sin is dead. Once I was alive apart from law; but when the commandment came, sin sprang to life and I died. I found that the very commandment that was intended to bring life actually brought death. For sin, seizing the opportunity afforded by the commandment, deceived me, and through the commandment put me to death. So then, the law is holy, and the commandment is holy, righteous and good. Did that which is good, then, become death to me? By no means! But in order that sin might be recognized as sin, it produced death in me through what was good, so that through the commandment sin might become utterly sinful.

What this is saying that until someone knows what sin is they are not guilty of sin.

2. The order of salvation is given multiple times in the Bible with Baptism always following:

Acts 2:22-39:

22: They were told who Jesus and that they had sinned by putting him to death.

37: They were convicted of there sin and asked what must be do.

38-39: Repent and be baptized every one of you for the forgiveness of sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. The promise is for you and for all who are far off—for all whom the Lord our God will call.

Acts: 8: 12-13

Acts: 8: 26-38

Acts: 10: 44-48

Acts 16: 11-15

Acts 16: 31-34

Acts: 18: 7-8

Acts: 19: 1-5

Acts: 22:14-16

3. Baptism is commanded in the Bible

• By Jesus: Matthew 28, 19-20 ;Mark 16: 15-16
• For salvation and the gift of the Holy Spirit: 1 Peter 3:21; Acts 2:38 (gift of holy spirit), John 3:5-4:2 (don't skip this one this is before and after the John 3:16)

4. If you are not doing Baptism because you are afraid of family turning there back on you....The bible says something about that too.  

John 12: 47-50 “As for the person who hears my words but does not keep them, I do not judge him. For I did not come to judge the world, but to save it. There is a judge for the one who rejects me and does not accept my words; that very word which I spoke will condemn him at the last day. For I did not speak of my own accord, but the Father who sent me commanded me what to say and how to say it. I know that his command leads to eternal life. So whatever I say is just what the Father has told me to say.”

Matthew: 10:33-41: “Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to turn“‘a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law—a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’“Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and anyone who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.“He who receives you receives me, and he who receives me receives the one who sent me. Anyone who receives a prophet because he is a prophet will receive a prophet’s reward, and anyone who receives a righteous man because he is a righteous man will receive a righteous man’s reward. And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones because he is my disciple, I tell you the truth, he will certainly not lose his reward.”

What The Bible says about........ Series

This is a new series concerning what the Bible says about a lot of things.   Most of these are struggles I had or have come across in my road to becoming more like God.   Some of them are things I have originally been taught but was taught wrong or believed wrong.  How do I know I was taught wrong or even believed wrong?  I looked at the Bible myself and what it had to say about things.

These posts probably will not be weekly but as I have time.