Chapter 9 and 10

I'm doing the discussion of these last two chapters a little different.   You will need to read the chapters, and they are totally worth the read.

Chapter 9:

If you read romance novels, enjoy watching Victoria secret commercials, watch porn, role play or pretend your spouse is someone else during sex, chapter 9 is definitely for you.  

Porn whether it be soft or hard has devastating  effects on your marriage.   Please read this chapter whether or not you think you have a problem in this area.

Chapter 10: 
This chapter is the Love chapter that will call you to account.  It's also a great review.

You and your husband have different needs:  "Love is not self-seeking"  Do you seek your fulfillment first?  

His sex drive is different that yours:   "Love is not easily angered and does not boast" Do you get mad because he wants sex more frequent than you or even less frequent than you? 

Some times you are just to tired:  "Love always perseveres.  Do you use all your energy doing other things?  Do you need to give up some busy work or revive your energy?   

Sometimes children can get in the way:  " Love is patient"  Are you patient?   Do little things or children take all your time?  

Sometimes it's boring:  " Love always hopes and is not rude"  Do you try your hardest to please your spouse or are you somewhere else?  

The past comes up again:   "Love rejoices with the truth and always protects.  Love does not keep a  record of wrong."  Have you set up fences to protect your marriage?   Does your past contribute to your pleasure with your husband or wife?

You don't feel sexy:   "Love is kind and not proud.  Love never fails."  Does what you look like or what you don't look like interfere with your ability to have sex or enjoy sex?  

Pornography is in your marriage:  "Love does not delight in evil and does not keep a record of wrongs."  Do you delight in evil?  Did you forgive your spouse or are you continuing to call him/her to account?  ______________________________________________

Homework:   What do you need to work on in your marriage?   Make a list, re-read that chapter.  Make an action plan.   Get to work.

Memory verses: 

1 Corth. 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Going further:  

Talk to your spouse about your issues above, ask for suggestions?